actually, i completely rebuilt the UI, adding in only the totally custom windows in the eq2ui_custom.xml file, everything is working perfectly
i really appreciate the replies
incidentally, i was able to get rid of the eq2ui_mainhud.xml file and the eq2ui.xml files completely from my custom UI folder
and now that i know exactly who did every piece of my current UI, ill be posting the thing to the Compilations area